Expect no more
I've come to the very important insight that many individuals don't value the work I perform for them. I would reach for the sun, the moon, and even the stars in order to be there for the ones that mean the most to me. I really believe in the notion that you should always receive positive reinforcement for your kindness from the cosmos. This fundamental truth, which is embedded in the values and civilization I have been exposed to, is something the universe has taught me. But I've discovered that giving doesn't always need to be reciprocated. I have to admit to myself that expectations often lead to disappointment.
"The best way to find yourself is to lose yourself in the service of others," said Mahatma Gandhi. This quote resonates with me deeply, yet it also highlights the inherent contradiction: while serving others, a part of us inevitably desires recognition or gratitude. Despite this, I've found that no matter how many books I read on virtue and ethics, the world's old principles and beliefs often feel inadequate in addressing the complexities of human psychology and relationships.
It is human nature for us to hold a minimal expectation of gratitude from the people we assist. This is a normal propensity, even though it's frequently unconscious. This 1% of expectation has occasionally caused me to feel depressed and underappreciated. But these events have made me stronger and more independent.
"The unthankful heart... discovers no mercies; but the thankful heart... will find, in every hour, some heavenly blessings." - Henry Ward Beecher. This wisdom has guided me to appreciate my own efforts and the growth they foster, regardless of external validation.
Looking back on my life, I see that I just have myself to rely on. I will not look back on my deeds of compassion when I am elderly. I now know not to hold out hope for anything in return. My surroundings and upbringing have taught me the value of giving and making other people happy without expecting anything in return. This is the core of real strength, in my opinion.
In the past, I used to cry and find it difficult to comprehend why other people did not appreciate my efforts. I've come to terms with the fact that if people don't value what I do, it's their loss. "No one is useless in this world who lightens the burdens of another." Dickens, Charles. This viewpoint strengthens my will to keep giving without expecting since I know that my acts, in
Ultimately, I am committed to doing whatever I can for others, driven by a desire to be a source of positivity and support, even if it's not reciprocated. This realization has fortified me, making me more resilient and self-sufficient. In the words of Maya Angelou, "I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it." I have chosen to be strengthened by my experiences, continually growing into a more compassionate and self-assured person.
